Angela V. Woodhull
“If a man is going his own way quietly (without hating women or posting on forums) why should women have a problem with him?”
I have two answers to this question.
[1] The Urban Dictionary defines MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) as:
“They are men who do not live for others anymore they live unapologetic lifestyle only for themselves. That means no kids no wife no problems in life. Some become MGTOW after they already had kids or been married and they pay for their mistakes, later on in life in divorce courts.”
“Because MGTOW feel betrayed as if society and women don’t give shit about them. They only view them as expendable containers, ATM machines, and sperm donors for reproduction purposes.”
“So as a response to toxic selfish society, they become selfish assholes who don’t care about nothing but their own existence.”
“And live only for themselves!”
“Male 1: Dude, why don’t you have a wife?”
“Male 2: Because women see you only as child support and alimony paychecks, I’m not that stupid to get married, I’m MGTOW!”
So, if a man is going his own way quietly without degrading women on public forums, it’s true. Women should not have a problem with that.
The bigger question is: How did the MGTOW movement get started?
It is the consequence of legalized abortion — in which women stood up and said, “It is my body, my choice. You have no rights.”
I have seen nice men — good men — absolutely crushed by the decision of their selfish girlfriends to terminate their unborn child’s life without even consulting them.
Can you imagine how a truly caring man, in that situation, feels? It is devastating. Absolutely devastating.
When today’s young women and men decide to honor the lives of their unborn children, you will see less men choosing the MGTOW lifestyle.
Most men want to care for and love a woman deeply — unless it is beaten out of them by selfish women who make selfish, unilateral decisions, like abortion.
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Now, here’s my second answer:
[2] There have always been male players in the world. For those of you who are male players, who enjoy the chase, but do not want the responsibility of a long term committed relationship, I have some serious advice for you:
[a] Don’t tell me that you’ve simply decide to go your own way after you spent so much time and effort getting me emotionally involved with you.
[b] Women feel abandoned and psychologically messed up when a man has taken time to listen to them and cultivate their deepest feelings, and then you decide you’re going to “go your own way” and not say anything about what you did to me?! That’s messed up. That is very cruel and selfish.
[c] So take responsibility. If you captured my heart in daily conversations and daily interactions and then just decided to vanish, for no particular reason, except maybe you got “bored,” you are hurting me unimaginably. You have taken my heart and shredded it. I feel vulnerable beyond belief. And that’s why I am having a problem with you.
Originally published at www.quora.com.